How to escape the roommate trap
Help! Me and my boyfriend are stuck in the roommate trap. How do we reignite the flame again?
This is a really common scenario that I see in many relationships - particularly longer term, and especially when you live together. But, people can also fall in to the roommate trap early on if they let certain things slide.
Here are my top tips to help keep the spark alive:
FLIRT WITH EACH OTHER
Just because you're in a long-term relationship doesn't mean the flirting between you and your partner has to stop or lose its charm. Maintaining that playful and affectionate vibe with each other is a great way to ensure you remain partners and not roommates.
DATE NIGHTS
Reinstate regular dates (at least monthly, ideally weekly). Plan fun, playful dates, romantic dates, adventurous dates. Try to take these outside the home for a change of scene.
NON-SEXUAL INTIMACY
Find ways to connect without the expectation of it leading to sex.
MAKE OUT MORE
Research shows the six second kiss enhances bonds - but I say go for a full make out sesh more often. Always greet each other and say goodbye with a long kiss.
TOUCH MORE
Give each other long hugs hello and goodbye, cuddle on the couch, make small touches during everyday moments to feel more connected.
COMMIT TO ELEVATING YOUR RELATIONSHIP
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